'We agreed to divorce - now we're stuck in lockdown together'

Welcome to Love Lockdown: a weekly column about how people are navigating romantic relationships in the time of coronavirus. Sally Jackson, a nutrition coach and emotional resilience trainer living in Exeter, asked her husband for a divorce right before lockdown measures came into force. We’re now in limbo, living in the same house and unable to move forward until lockdown ends.  Our relationship has always had a certain degree of tension but on the whole we’ve had a lot of fun together. Things changed about three years ago when I decided to move from Cambridge to Devon to be closer to my mum. We moved in with her while we were waiting for our house to sell but ended up living there for over a year, which put a massive strain on our relationship. We eventually managed to buy our own home but I soon noticed that my husband wasn’t unpacking his boxes. We were due to visit my daughter, who lives in the US, in March but not long before our departure date the relationship began to unravel. My husband has always worked away from Monday to Friday, so having him in the house all the time would have been a big change anyway, but now it’s especially difficult.  Silly things can become points of tension very easily. We cook separately, and in the morning I’ll wait until I hear him in the shower before I go down to the kitchen and make sure that I’ve gone out for a walk before he comes downstairs. Yet at the same time I still find myselfcalling my husband ‘darling’ because I’ve done so for so many years – it’s the strangest combination of feelings. On another occasion, I was due to call into a friend’s lockdown birthday on Houseparty but almost cancelled because they weren’t yet aware of the situation. It made me realise that a lotof my personal resilience comes from her – my mum is an amazing woman. 23 things you can do to pass your time (Photos) With gyms and fitness centers closed due to the coronavirus (COVID-19) outbreak, chalk out a workout plan for yourself and exercise at home. Catch up on the movies and TV shows you missed due to lack of time. Try making pasta from scratch or bake your favorite chocolate cake or cook something that is out of your comfort zone. If you have always desired to learn a new language, utilize this time to join an online course and upgrade your skills. You could either lie down, close your eyes and focus on your breathing, or sit cross-legged and chant a soothing mantra. You could write about your day’s activities, or the things you are grateful for or about any specific interests, such as food and films. Writing down your thoughts helps you to assess your state of mind, and later in life it can also serve as a memoir that you sit back reminisce. Fight your boredom by coloring, painting or just indulging in some DIY crafts, such as an artistic bookmark. Several artists and musical institutions are organizing free online concerts to share some joy amid the COVID-19 pandemic. From Miley Cyrus to Coldplay, check out the various events you could stream from the comfort of your home. You could spend your time watering and trimming your existing plants or grow a new sapling. Make a video call to your loved ones to stay connected with them or reconnect with a friend with whom you haven’t spoken to for a while. If you are thinking of changing your current job, use this time to update your resume and get in touch with recruiters online. I’m doing online Pilates and laughing yoga, and I’m making sure that I eat healthily while allowing myself the occasional biscuit, chocolate and glass of wine. I’m a wellbeing and emotional resilience trainer, so I’ve had to work hard to put all of my practices into place.